Balancing Your Masculine and Feminine Energies

May 15th, 2017   •   Miscellaneous   •   no comments   
Balancing Your Masculine and Feminine Energies

The thought that we all have masculine and feminine energies within ourselves is nothing new. If you take a look around, there are masculine and feminine energies everywhere in the universe. According to a very interesting book, The Kybalion, the Law of Gender states that “gender is in everything; everything has its masculine and feminine principles; gender manifests on all planes.” The masculine and feminine energies can not only be found in humans, but also in plants, electrons, magnetic poles and minerals. We live in a polarized reality. There are many names for it; Eastern cultures call it Yin and Yang, and famous psychiatrist and psychologist Carl Jung coined the terms Anime and Animus.

 

The yin/yang symbol is a metaphor for the constant dance between the masculine and feminine energies within each of us.

 

 

So every man and woman have both masculine and feminine energies within. This has nothing to do with sexual preference or gender. Regardless of the gender of a person, each soul has a certain amount of male energy and female energy. This makes perfect sense, as each of us come from both the masculine and feminine, we all have a father and a mother: sperm and egg. And neither one is more important than the other. They just provide different and very necessary elements to our being. You can think of a battery, one end is negative and the other positive. It doesn’t mean that the positive end is good and the negative end bad. They are just opposite charges and they are both necessary for the battery to function.

 

The masculine and feminine energies within ourselves also act like a battery. They are the fuel that allows us to be who we are. Engaging both the masculine and feminine is what ends up making us whole. Unfortunately because of parental, societal but also cultural conditioning many people experience an imbalance in these energies. We can become overly identified with one or the other energy. This imbalance manifests in our emotions, thoughts and body causing all sorts of trouble.

 

balance masculine feminine

 

How Do Masculine and Feminine Energy Differ?

 

Simply said the masculine energy contains the more direct, rational and practical qualities. This is usually linked to competitionambition, strength, risk taking, and analytical abilities. The feminine energy on the other hand contains intuitive, creative, feeling and visionary qualities. And is usually linked to love, vulnerability, softness, receiving and accepting. The masculine energy is outward directed and the feminine energy is more inward looking. In the overview below you can see some of the different qualities:

 

Masculine Energy Feminine Energy
Doing Being
Aggression Surrender
Analytical Intuitive
Concrete Abstract
Impatient Patient
Striving Tranquil
Rushing Nurturting
Assertive Receptive
Left brain Right brain
Thrusting  Receiving
Organization  Synthesizing
Logical Creative
Busy Calm
Hard Soft
Controlling Allowing

 

The above list obviously contains generalizations. And the truth is that we are always in the flow of both energies. Sometimes we express more of the masculine and sometimes more of the feminine energy. Balancing these energies within is crucial for achieving piece and progress in life. A project at work will for example be a success, if you take inspired creativity (feminine energy) and channel it, with a logical plan (masculine energy). The result is a fabulous finished project. Also for healthy relationships the presence of both energies is needed to balance things out. It doesn’t really matter who plays which role, as long as both energies are present (people are diverse, not all men have high masculine energy and not all women have high feminine energy).

 

You can look at yourself in any given situation and see how the balance may shift towards one or the other. You should always strive to find a balance between the two. This brings calm and peace within. The opposite on the other hand will bring unrest, stress and an unbalanced life.

 

Imbalanced Masculine and Feminine Energies

 

That brings me to why we so many of us feel imbalanced.

 

Today, we live in a society where the traits of the masculine energy are overvalued. Men, but especially women have to become more masculine in order to succeed. They have to become more competitive and assertive, internalize their emotions and become more “logical”. Men and women that are out of touch with their feminine energy have the feeling that they have to keep moving and doing continually. As staying in the masculine means more ambition, more competition, more procedures and also more stress. This can put their nervous system on high alert and ultimately leading to adrenal fatigue and depression.

 

Signs of living too much in your masculine energy are : aggressiveness, anger, anxiety, overly critical and judgmental, overly confident, feeling burnt out, feeling overly competitive, inability to relax. If this sounds like you, you need to integrate the feminine back into your life.

 

On the other hand when people operate primarily from their feminine side they can struggle to create the experiences they want in the world. They lose sight of their goals, lose inspiration to create the things they want for themselves. They can slip into hopelessness and depression. Remember that it is the feminine that is the creative energy and the male energy is goal-oriented, directed and focused and acts on it by doing.

 

Signs of living too much in your feminine energy are: lack of confidence, low self-esteem, feelings of jealousy, confused, feeling weak and lifeless, stagnation, tired and depression. If this sounds like you, you need to integrate the masculine back into your life.

 

Some of the reasons why many of us today experience an imbalance between our inner masculine and feminine energies are:

 

  • The mainstream media (tv shows, movies, songs and social media). As an example men are socialized not to show feelings or let others in, they cannot cry and need to be assertive, confident and strong. Women are conditioned to compare and compete with other women. They need to improve physically and alter their bodies to become “more beautiful”.
  • The absence of fatherly love/energy during formative years and/or the lack of healthy female role models. They can all inhibit a natural connection to the masculine or feminine energies in our lives.
  • The hierarchical, often ego-driven corporate office culture is very much a high masculine energy environment. Women sometimes struggle to soften once they leave their job. This may cause them to feel unbalanced, stressed and stuck. They may become rigid and lose their flow.

 

So if you feel stressed, unrest or feel that your life is unbalanced, the basic question you need to ask yourself is: “what is the current balance of male and female energies in my life?”  

 

Below are a number of practical ways you can get in touch with the masculine or feminine in yourself and in the world

 

If you want to get more in touch with the masculine or feminine in yourself you only have to remember that masculine energy is about doing, go getting, goal seeking and giving.  And feminine energy is about being, acceptance and receiving. So then, activities that incorporate the masculine qualities will increase your masculine energy and activities that incorporate the feminine qualities will raise your feminine energy. Here are some examples:

 

Ways to engage your masculine energy:

 

  • Be an active giver. Give something freely, without expecting anything in return. This can be a gift (or even money), your attention, volunteer work or your time.
  • Support your loved ones unconditionally. Don’t be judgmental in support of one of their dreams. But encourage them towards their fears; give them support for their attempt.
  • Pick a skill, trade or specific expertise and fully master it.  It’s not really important what you choose to fully master as long as you have something in your life that you are determined to develop and master.
  • Fight. Taking some kind of martial art or self defence class gives you a boost of masculine energy.
  • Do something you enjoy. This includes any activity that you enjoy that requires “doing”. For instance working out, riding your bike or going for a walk.
  • Have guys only time. You soak up each other’s energies and inspire each other’s masculine energy when you are exclusively in the company of other men.

 

Ways to engage your feminine energy:

 

  • Simply receive. Whether it is a compliment, massage, pedicure, having someone make a meal for you, or laying down and just being aware of your energy, simply allow yourself to receive.
  • Say “yes” when someone offers to do something for you. Just receive what someone is giving you and be nurtured. Don’t be tempted to step in to “fix” things if they don’t do it “right” in your eyes. As an example, if your child offers to fold the laundry don’t say yes, only to step in later to refold it. Simply receive!
  • Have females only time. A big way to recharge your feminine energy is to spend intentional time with other women. Share and uplift each other, give and receive support and share  wisdom and advice. 
  • Engage your creativity. Dance, sing, draw, paint, dress up or do any other activity that you want to do which engages your creativity.
  • Nurture your body. Eat healthy foods, rub essential oils on your skin, take a bath. Just engage the senses and nurture your body in a way that feels good to you.

 

Have you experienced an imbalance between your masculine and feminine energy? If not, which strategies do you use to maintain the balance between these two?

 

 

78 Motivational Quotes That Will Relieve Your Stress

May 9th, 2017   •   Uncategorized   •   no comments   
78 Motivational Quotes That Will Relieve Your Stress

Reducing stress is crucial for recovering from Adrenal Fatigue. But I know that’s easier said then done! It can be very hard to stay positive, optimistic and deal with your stressful feelings in a healthy way. To help you with the stress battle, I have collected 78 of the best quotes on stress.

 

So if you are feeling stressed and/or suffer from Adrenal Fatigue, let the following quotes inspire you and motivate you:

 

  1. Everything you need you already have; you are complete right now. You are a whole total person, not an apprentice person on the way to someplace else. Your completeness must be understood by you and experienced in your thoughts as your own personal reality.  –Wayne Dyer
  2. You can’t always control what goes on outside, but you can always control what goes on inside.  –Wayne Dyer
  3. The best way to pay for a lovely moment is to enjoy it.  –Richard Bach
  4. Stress is caused by being “here” but wanting to be “there.”  –Eckhart Tolle
  5. You are braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.  –Christopher Robin
  6. Remember that stress doesn’t come from what’s going on in your life. It comes from your thoughts about what’s going on in your life.  –Andrew J. Bernstein
  7. In times of great stress or adversity, it’s always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive.  –Lee Iacocca
  8. When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.  –Winston Churchill
  9. The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.  –Sydney J. Harris
  10. It’s not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean.  –Tony Robbins
  11. One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was from a horse master. He told me to go slow to go fast. I think that applies to everything in life. We live as though there aren’t enough hours in the day but if we do each thing calmly and carefully we will get it done quicker and with much less stress.  –Viggo Mortensen
  12. Once you accept, truly accept, that stuff will happen to you and there is nothing you can do about it, stress miraculously leaves your life.  –Srikumar Rao
  13. Getting stress out of your life takes more than prayer alone. You must take action to make changes and stop doing whatever is causing the stress. You can learn to calm down in the way you handle things.  –Joyce Meyer
  14. We all have those things that even in the midst of stress and disarray, they energize us and give us renewed strength and purpose. These are our passions.  –Adam Braun
  15. Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find they haven’t half the strength you they have.  –Norman Vincent Peale
  16. Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.  –Chinese proverb
  17. Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they’ve started.  –David Allen
  18. Somehow our devils are never quite what we expect when we meet them face to face.  –Nelson DeMil
  19. Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths.  –Etty Hillesum
  20. When we long for life without difficulties, remind us that oaks grow strong in contrary winds and diamonds are made under pressure.  –Peter Marshall
  21. Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.  –Hans Selye
  22. The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.  –William James
  23. Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under the trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is by no means a waste of time.  –John Lubbock
  24. It’s a good idea always to do something relaxing prior to making an important decision in your life.  –Paulo Coelho
  25. Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answers.  –William S. Burroughs
  26. Doing something that is productive is a great way to alleviate emotional stress. Get your mind doing something that is productive.  –Ziggy Marley
  27. Do not anticipate trouble or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.  –Benjamin Franklin
  28. It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.  –Hans Selye
  29. I believe dancing is the best stress reliever.  –Dylan Lauren
  30. If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn’t ask me, I’d still have to say it.  –George Burns
  31. In times of life crisis, whether wild fires or smoldering stress, the first thing I do is go back to basics … am I eating right, am I getting enough sleep, am I getting some physical and mental exercise every day?  –Edward Albert
  32. If the problem can be solved why worry? If the problem cannot be solved, worrying will do you no good.  –Santideva
  33. Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself.  –Paulo Coelho
  34. Your mindset matters. It affects everything–from the business and investment decisions you make, to the way you raise your children, to your stress levels and overall well-being.  –Peter Diamandis
  35. We can easily manage if we will only take, each day, the burden appointed to it. But the load will be too heavy for us if we carry yesterday’s burden over again today, and then add the burden of the morrow before we are required to bear it.  –John Newton
  36. You believe that you live in the world, where in fact the world lives within you.  –Deepak Chopra
  37. If you focus on success, you’ll have stress. But if you pursue excellence, success will be guaranteed.  –Deepak Chopra
  38. Slow down and everything you are chasing will come around and catch you.  –John De Paola
  39. When stress sets in, and pressure, I focus.  –David Hallberg
  40. Maturity is achieved when a person accepts life as full of tension.  –Joshua L. Liebman
  41. There is more to life than increasing its speed.  –Mahatma Gandhi
  42. Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency.  –Natalie Goldberg
  43. It is not a daily increase, but a daily decrease. Hack away at the inessentials.  –Bruce Lee
  44. When I’m grateful for all the blessings, it puts away all the stress about things not in my control. Things like long hours, aging, pollution, scandals … it helps me create perspective by just focusing on being grateful. Take that moment twice a day with yourself.  –Darby Stanchfield
  45. Rule number one is, don’t sweat the small stuff. Rule number two is, it’s all small stuff.  –Robert Eliot
  46. You need to be able to manage stress because hard times will come, and a positive outlook is what gets you through.  –Marie Osmond
  47. For fast-acting relief, try slowing down.  –Lily Tomlin
  48. We can boost our immune systems by strengthening our social networks and decreasing stress.  –Jane McGonigal
  49. In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers.  –Fred Rogers
  50. The truth is that there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it’s your thoughts that create these false beliefs. You can’t package stress, touch it, or see it. There are only people engaged in stressful thinking.  –Wayne Dyer
  51. Live in the moment, day by day, and don’t stress about the future. People are so caught up in looking into the future that they kind of lose what’s in front of them.  –Jenna Ushkowitz
  52. Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There’s going to be stress in life, but it’s your choice whether you let it affect you or not.  –Valerie Bertinelli
  53. Forget about all the reasons why something may not work. You only need to find one good reason why it will.   –Dr. Robert Anthony
  54. The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.  –Elbert Hubbard
  55. Stress is not what happens to us. It’s our response TO what happens. And RESPONSE is something we can choose.  –Maureen Killoran
  56. Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.  –Melody Beattie
  57. That which a man continually thinks about determines his actions in times of opportunity and stress. I will know what you are if you tell me what you think about when you don’t have to think.  –David O. McKay
  58. Being in control of your life and having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life.  –Marilu Henner
  59. Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once.  –Paulo Coelho
  60. There’s a lot of stress out there, and to handle it, you just need to believe in yourself; always go back to the person that you know you are, and don’t let anybody tell you any different, because everyone’s special and everyone’s awesome.  –McKayla Maroney
  61. When we commit to action, to actually doing something rather than feeling trapped by events, the stress in our life becomes manageable.  –Greg Anderson
  62. Some people are so used to experiencing stress that they don’t remember what life was like without it.  –Andrew J. Bernstein
  63. It seems that we have it backward in our society. We tend to look up to people who are under a great deal of stress, who can handle loads of stress, and those who are under a great deal of pressure.  –Richard Carlson
  64. Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.  –Confucius
  65. Taking time to contemplate what you’re grateful for isn’t merely the “right” thing to do. It also improves your mood because it reduces the stress hormone cortisol by 23 percent. –Travis Bradberry
  66. Stress is an important dragon to slay–or at least tame–in your life.  –Marilu Henner
  67. It’s not the load that breaks you dow, it’s the way you carry it.  –Lou Holtz
  68. The deepest fear we have, “the fear beneath all fears,” is the fear of not measuring up, the fear of judgment. It’s this fear that creates the stress and depression of everyday life.  –Tullian Tchividjian
  69. An attitude of positive expectation is the mark of the superior personality.  –Brian Tracy
  70. Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious.  –Anna Taylor
  71. Don’t stress the could haves, if it should have, it would have.  — Unknown
  72. Strengh does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.  –Arnold Schwarzenegger
  73. When you find yourself stressed, ask yourself one question: Will this matter in 5 years from now? If yes, then do something about the situation. If no, then let it go.  –Catherine Pulsifer
  74. Stress should be a powerful driving force, not an obstacle. –Bill Phillips
  75. Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and, above all, confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained.  –Marie Curie
  76. Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.  –Kahlil Gibran
  77. Resistance creates suffering. Stress happens when your mind resists what is. The only problem in your life is your mind’s resistance to life as it unfolds.  –Dan Millman
  78. Say NO to the demands of the world. Say YES to the longings of your own heart.  –Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Why Cortisol is Not A Bad Hormone

April 29th, 2017   •   General   •   no comments   
Why Cortisol is Not A Bad Hormone

Cortisol is a steroid hormone that is produced by the adrenal cortex (the outer part of the adrenal gland). It is a life sustaining hormone dedicated to maintaining balance in the body. Cortisol is called “the stress hormone” because it influences and regulates many of the changes that occur in the body in response to stress. Whether that stress is physical like illness, low blood sugar levels, surgery, trauma, temperature extremes, or psychological.

 

read more

Want Six-Pack Abs? Here’s Why You Shouldn’t

April 9th, 2017   •   Miscellaneous   •   no comments   
Want Six-Pack Abs? Here’s Why You Shouldn’t

Six-pack abs have a reputation for being the ultimate sign of health and peak fitness. Many people dream about having a six-pack, and some make it a goal. In reality, six-pack abs are not all they are cracked up to be, and are generally not worth pursuing (especially not if you suffer from Adrenal fatigue). Superficiality and vanity explain their popularity, rather than genuine interest in fitness or good health.

read more

5 Great Exercises To Do At Your Desk

February 19th, 2017   •   General   •   no comments   
5 Great Exercises To Do At Your Desk

If you are stuck at your desk for eight hours each day, it is difficult to fit in a proper workout. Sitting for long periods of time has health consequences, including poor circulation, posture issues and chronic pain. Fortunately, there are exercises that you can do while sitting at a desk, and none of the exercises below require you to leave your chair.
read more

Time Alone: Seven Benefits of Voluntary Solitude

January 4th, 2017   •   Miscellaneous   •   no comments   
Time Alone: Seven Benefits of Voluntary Solitude

Many people feel uncomfortable spending more than a few hours alone, yet voluntary solitude, if used gainfully, can improve mental health, reduce stress, and assist personal growth. Here are seven ways to benefit from spending time alone.
read more

Download Your Free Stress Management Workbook Now!

Get our free Stress Management Workbook to help you identify and track your stress, and provide you with a variety of proven techniques that you can use to counteract stress. It helps you:

  • Set stress management goals
  • Identify your stressors
  • Learn 5 key steps to managing your stress
  • and more!
Close this popup